Touching

To touch another is to share part of yourself. Touching is one of the most intimate acts on the physical plane. There is no other place where two people can actually share a hug, hold hands, or simply touch – placing a finger on someone else’s cheek, touching their hair, or just placing a comradely hand on someone’s shoulder. That is because on no other plane do we experience physicality, and that means no where else does a simple touch mean so much.

Think how much we express simply through touch. You can indicate your anger with someone by shoving, slapping, or poking; and just as easily, you can indicate your appreciation of someone by a gentle touch to their shoulder, a hug, or a brief gripping of their arm or hand.

The greatest range of touch, though, comes when we try to express our love for someone. That love can be love between friends or comrades, which is expressed in touches similar to those used for appreciation—a hand to the shoulder, a hug, a short grip on the other’s arm, a finger touching a face. As the love becomes more intimate, such as that shared between parent and child, the touching also becomes more intimate. The placement of both hands on either side of the face, strong hugs, both hands clasped between another’s hands, and lips touching the face (cheek, forehead, and sometimes the lips).

A lover’s touch is the most intimate of all, not because of the sexuality behind it, but because of the sensuality behind it. Someone who truly loves another (sexually, sensually, and completely—accepting them fully for who and what they are) extends that emotion through their touch. The emotions are extended with the hand offered for holding, with the kiss, the hug, and simple touch that wipes away a tear.

Of course the ultimate touch is that of sharing bodies during lovemaking. There is a difference between having intercourse and making love, and that difference becomes quite obvious to the participants through the types of touching that occurs.

Loving touches involve trust and acceptance, as each person allows the other within their personal space (their auric bubble), and then allows them to make that physical contact. If fear or mistrust is felt or experienced by either party, then the touching is not a true exchange of love. Because true intimacy based on love has no fear, has no mistrust.

Touching someone else imparts a part of your energy into their aura, and if they touch you back, a part of them then remains with you. As I said, this is extremely intimate. But it is also very important. Did you know that more people heal faster when they are touched in a gentle caring way then when not? It doesn’t matter how many visitors they have if no one cares enough to reach out and touch them. Even a simple patting of the arm, is enough to impart a piece of your positive energy into their not so healthy energies.

Emotions are felt more acutely when you actually make physical contact, and that’s because your energies are merging with theirs. Your energies are contacting theirs even as your physical bodies are contacting each other. A smile is good, but a touch is better.

So, as you go through your life each day, try to reach out and touch someone. Show them you love, accept, and trust them. Show them encouragement by offering a hug, or a brief touch to their arm or shoulder. Share a piece of yourself with them; give them a boost of your positive energy.

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8 thoughts on “Touching

  1. Well put. I’ve always been a big “toucher.” What your post got me to thinking about those people who aren’t touchers, or who resist being touched–by that I mean, the people who send out the signal “Don’t touch me, don’t get too close.”

    I find that I usually know very clearly who is open to being touched, and who is not. Very interesting when you think about it.

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    1. I also have encountered many who do not like to be touched, and I try to respect their wishes. However, what I truly resent are the cultural, societal, and work place rules and restrictions that inhibit and prohibit touching in any form. It seems as if we are forced to live with together but always remain at arm’s length from one another–I find that just sad. ;-(

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  2. This is a wonderfully written piece. I, too, find it sad when outside restrictions keep one from being able to share the closeness of a simple touch.

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  3. I always thought that touch was the most important part of healing, so I understand your frustration in working at place that creates such roadblocks to a person’s natural need to touch.

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  4. I’ve run into some of the restrictions you’ve mentioned, but luckily my family is big on hugs and closeness and I have a lot of family.

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