Death Lessons


VARIATIONS OF THIS question have popped up often enough during presentations that I give regarding my near-death experience that I decided to just create a blog post. The question is:

What commonality do people’s reports of their NDEs have?

MANY PEOPLE WHO have reported NDEs have also stated how their perceptions and outlooks toward life have changed. When I compiled their comments, I found a consistent theme in their current principles (tenets and beliefs).

Almost all of those with positive NDEs now had principles that echoed those that I had known internally since I was old enough to put coherent thoughts together.

These are real, every day (‘normal’) people—not some guru or medium, yet each of us has the same message we carry around inside.

However, I would like to share the message and the principles with everyone. Just because you haven’t had an NDE, doesn’t mean you can’t experience what we have: an awakening, an epiphany of the soul.

So, here are seven of the ‘secrets’ that NDE-ers have learned:

  1. Everything is Choice.Before we incarnate in physical form we plan and choose our lives. We select our families, friends, potential mates, experiences and challenges. We also choose where and when we’ll be born (what socio-economic and political climate and circumstances). And after we’re born, we continue to make choices that affect us and those around us.
  2. Everything is Connected.Everyone incarnate and discarnate is connected. And we’re all connected to everything—animate and inanimate. We all share the same base structure, the same energy base; therefore, anything we do affects everything and everyone else around us.
  3. Everything Needs Balance.This is sometimes called karma, but it all comes down to learning to find the balance between our needs and our wants (or our ‘what we think we need’), between love and fear. The balance point is acceptance and tolerance, but there’s a whole range of experiences between love and fear or need and want. (And acceptance is not the same as resignation—acceptance is full of love, while resignation is without hope and contains fear.)
  4. Life is Eternal.Sentience never dies. The body we think of as ourselves will die, but the true being inside of that body does not. The true body, the true us, lives forever.
  5. Life is Relationships.Life is about the relationships we have with everything—our parents, ourselves, our jobs, our friends, our things, our pets, all of what we call nature, people we barely know (mail carriers, cashiers, neighbors, taxi drivers, etc.), other countries, religions, etc. How we treat ourselves and others is very important, because as stated earlier, we’re all connected.
  6. Life is About Experience.Knowledge, learning, and experience are important parts to life. Every time you choose a physical life you gain knowledge and experiences, and that contributes to your overall learning. Your overall knowledge contributes to the overall experiences of everyone else because we all learn from each other.
  7. Unifying Power.There is a unifying power, a super energy, a oneness, a singularity that binds us all together. Some of us call it God, some call it The All, and others call it a Supreme Being. Whatever name we give it, most people, especially those who have had an NDE are certain that it exists, even if they had been atheists prior to their NDE.

These seven principles seem to come through in the messages of loving acceptance that each NDE-er has. And these are the same seven principles that I have felt guiding my life since forever.

I have to admit, I find it fascinating, comforting, and a bit satisfying to hear other “normal” people express these same seven principles that I’ve been carrying around all my life. (I think it always makes you feel better when someone else can validate you or your beliefs.)

So, while I can’t prove (in any scientific way, anyway) that these are the seven driving forces behind the world we live in, they have definitely been the seven driving forces behind my own life.

About TA Sullivan

An author, writer, photographer, and fellow life traveler who offers her wit, wisdom, and stories with others who share her path, if even for a moment.
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5 Responses to Death Lessons

  1. Dr Bob Rich says:

    Tricia, I have not had a clinical death experience, but over the past 40 years, I have grown exactly into the same set of beliefs. I am reblogging your post.

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  2. Dr Bob Rich says:

    Reblogged this on Bobbing Around and commented:
    I have not had a clinical death experience, but over the past 40 years, I have grown exactly into the same set of beliefs. Highly recommended


  3. Max says:

    Why is it that some people seem to have access to all this great knowledge that uplifts them and offers a sense of purpose, while others (like me) stumble through life sure of nothing, without a faith to sustain me? I would love to KNOW I had some purpose, rather than just living and dying, and being forgotten.

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    • TA Sullivan says:

      I always felt that struggling to find a purpose was kinda the first step to getting there. After all, if you don’t feel as if you’re missing something in life, you never start searching. Of course, once you start searching, you need to listen and watch for those subtle pushes, tugs, and words that can help direct you. And words of “wisdom” often come from the most unexpected sources–someone in line with you at the grocery, the panhandler on the corner, or the person who spills mustard all over you at the fast food place. The key is to leave yourself open to the experiences. Follow the tugs and pushes of your intuition. Someone invites you to the ball game, but you’re too tired to go, yet something inside you says you’ll regret it if you don’t go…then go. That little voice is probably alerting you to some connection that you’ll find there at the game. Some connection that can move your life along in a new or different direction.

      Those of us “…with access to all this great knowledge…” are simply leaving ourselves open enough to hear, see, and feel the wisdom that life is trying to share with all of us.


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