Rejecting Rejection

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Rejection is a way of life for an author…or for any artiste, for that matter. It’s one of those things that you either learn to cope with or you spend all your time depressed. My coping mechanism has always been to tell myself, “Well, that’s just your opinion. I happen to think my [book/story/article] is pretty darn good.” And then I move on to the next step in my path—writing something else, submitting the book/story/article somewhere else, or just taking a nap. I always try to ensure that when I do move on, though, that is in a positive way.

However, the first time my esoteric talents (I’m extremely intuitive) got rejected, I wasn’t quite so aware, nor was I quite prepared to deal with it. I took the rejection of my talents as a rejection of myself. And I believe that’s the trap many people also fall into when their writing is rejected.

I’ve always had a touch of intuitiveness, and after my car vs. bike accident this ability became even more pronounced. For instance, I could ‘hear’ thoughts, perceive emotions leftover in a room or house, or get an inkling of what was about to happen. However, since the accident, I’ve become pretty good at reading someone’s entire aura, including their previous lives—their histories, if you will. I can see the correlations between their current life, their health, and their past lives, and I can usually see (and understand) what lessons they want to learn in their life by having those past lives so prominent in their auras.

When I met ‘Phil’, it was just an ordinary day in my rather ordinary life at my rather ordinary job. We were introduced, he told me a bit about himself, and then he and the boss moved on to the next cube to meet the next person. For the next few hours, I didn’t give him another thought.

The team went to lunch to welcome Phil to our group, and everything was still normal. However, as we prepared to leave, I had difficulty with my coat and Phil reached over to help. When his hand brushed my skin, I got a rush of information, including the connection between us. This ability was still new to me, and in my joy at having this talent, I assumed everyone would want to know what I discovered. I was wrong.

Back at the office, I wrote down everything I could remember. And that night, I did a reading to fill in the gaps. Proud of what I had done and thrilled with this new information, I typed it up and presented it to Phil the next day. He looked confused, asked me what it was, and I told him just to read it and that I would answer his questions later.

I waited all day for him to say something, but he didn’t. So, I thought, okay…he’s digesting it. After all, it was a lot to take in. I told myself similar platitudes all week. Finally, Friday I could wait no longer. I asked him what he thought, and he scrunched his face in thought. Then he looked at me and said in his politest manner, “I don’t believe in that kind of stuff.”

I was crushed. I tried to argue with him, I tried to reason with him. I tried to convince him that it was real; but the hardness of his eyes never changed. He didn’t believe in past lives, he didn’t believe in what I had written, and (overall) he thought I was a kook.

He moved on to another part of the company soon after that (I hope it wasn’t because of me), but I learned two lessons that day:

  1. Not everyone is going to like what you do.
  2. Not everyone is going to believe in what you do.

For those who don’t like what you do, well, that’s on them. For those who don’t believe in what you do, it doesn’t matter, because you believe in what you do.

And for both sets of people, never force your products on anyone, but always make them available to anyone who wants to them.

Most of all, remember rejection isn’t about you. It’s about the person doing the rejecting. Psychopomp 3D - DLS - 8pxls - 2

Mastering Meditation…

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Do you wonder what types of lives you might have lived previously, or what lives you might live in the future? Using the regression and progression meditation techniques included in the book can help you find out. The book also contains some examples of past life memories as recalled by me and several others who have used these meditation techniques. So, get ready…this FREE book is coming soon.

 

Choices

It’s how we live; it’s how our realities are created; and it’s the name of the new 2-book set available from most online book retailers.

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I’ve combined my near death experiences and death escort experiences with the years of information received regarding relationships of all sorts (spouses, companions, friends, co-workers, and family).

Life is all about the choices we make in our everyday lives. How we choose to act and react to the stimuli around us and the actions and reactions of others. Sometimes we choose to react in love, and sometimes we choose fear. Every choice is a valid one, but each one also has consequences and spawns further actions, reactions, and choices.

Each of my books shows examples of how choices affect our lives–little choices and major choices–and how every day we are constantly making thousands of choices without even realizing it.

If you have enjoyed the articles in this blog, then you will love the books, I’m sure. I hope each of you finds something meaningful and helpful in my writings and I will continue to answer your questions as best I can.

Happy Reading!

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What makes a great non-fiction author?

escortingcoverTo me, the number one answer to that question is: storytelling ability. It doesn’t matter whether you’re writing fiction or non-fiction, if you can’t relate the information in an interesting and compelling manner, then no one will read it.

Many people can tell a story or an anecdote, but only true storytellers can make them come alive. This is so very important when creating a non-fiction book. You have to find ways to help your readers relate to the characters, but without sacrificing the facts. After all, in non-fiction your characters aren’t made up and your readers can check the details. Yet, you don’t want to bore your readers with nothing but a compilation of facts, either.

Writing truth as if it were fiction is a fine line to walk. Some authors do it quite well, and others fall flat. As a reader, I noticed the difference and I began taking notes on what made some books great non-fiction and others just so-so. When I decided to share my own near death experience story (Escorting the Dead) with the world, I went back to my notes detailing the differences between good and not-so-good non-fiction to make sure I did it right.

As I analyzed these difference, I found that the major difference between good non-fiction and so-so non-fiction was the author’s ability to relate a story. As an author of both fiction (The Starstone) and non-fiction (Escorting the Dead), I have learned that no matter what type of book you are creating, you still have to tell a good story.frontcover

But how do you tell a story when relating facts, history, and biographical or autobiographical data? I found that there were two methods that seemed to work the best: use anecdotes to bring your people and time period to life; or relate one major incident from the person’s life in a friendly, story-like way. Both methods let you add flavor and depth to the people you are writing about. This then gives your readers a chance to connect with the people in your book. If you can’t build that bridge between your reader and the key character of your book, then no amount of facts, figures, charts, and graphs will win them over. Your readers want to see the humanity in the people populating your non-fiction book; they want to be able to relate to and understand the reasons motivating the people in your book. They want a really good story, even if it is non-fiction.

So, a great non-fiction author is one who can bring reality to life and fool his or her readers into believing that what they are reading is just a great story even if it is a moment plucked from real life.

Good or evil? How do we know?

Have you ever read in the paper or seen on the web or TV some news item and instantly determined (at least in your mind) who was the good guy and who was the evil one in the situation? We all make judgements about others, and sometimes with very little information. Few of us would even think to consider that someone’s actions may not be dictated by events in this lifetime, because rarely do any of us consider anything other than this reality, this here and now.

Yet, if we were to stop to consider what past encounters between the two might have occurred (in this reality or another), and what the repercussions of those interactions might have been or might still be, we might not be so quick to judge. For instance, in this reality a child is abducted, held hostage, and sexually abused. That’s wrong, right? And the man who did it is evil, and we all breathe a sigh of relief when he’s caught and punished. But what if 15 lifetimes ago he was the child who was abused and the abuser is the child in the current life. What if the current event we’re reading or hearing about is occurring simply as a way of rebalancing the energies around them, and as a spiritual lesson for the participants.

We’ve all heard the expression, “What goes around, comes around,” but have we really thought about what that means. Do we really understand the greater picture. Most people are too busy just striving to exist within the “one life”, the life on which all their energies are focused—this here, and this now. But if we could all just take a moment and try to see the bigger picture, the picture that includes all the previous nows (past lives), and all the probable nows (future lives) we might realize that many of the incidents we judge as good or evil are simply a small part of a larger play.

If you push me down, and then die before I can push you back, my reality and yours are now out of balance. I owe you a shove and some feelings of inadequacy and embarrassment. But maybe the next 7 lives are spent in different realities, different geographic places with too much distance between us to allow us to bring balance back to our realities. Comes life number 8 following the incident and we’re back in proximity to each other. Do we restore balance between us by having me shove you? Do we even know each other, or as strangers will I knock you down with all the same intentions that you had when you attacked me? Those are some of the choices we will have to make–maybe not on a conscious level, but in our souls we choose.

The longer we ignore the imbalance the stronger it attracts us and the “bigger” it becomes as an event in our lives. If we ignore it long enough, there will come a life where we cannot NOT do it. Balance must be re-established, so we have to rectify the imbalance by me shoving you with all the same anger and intensity that you used when you attacked me.

The “rule” holds true for everyone in every situation. Yet here we are judging people based on what we see right here and right now. While I’m not advocating an overthrow of man’s laws—we all need to live within the imposed structures of the reality we accept , including societal and familial rules—I am saying that all of us should be a little less judgmental in our own minds regarding things we know so little about.

Be one with the world

All things recognize the oneness of the universe except man. You may think nothing of injuring a tree in your back yard in North America, yet the message of what you did is carried from your backyard across the world. So, when you travel to Sumatra, the trees there will recognize you and will either fear you or resent you, thereby making your simple stroll a harrowing trek with their need to protect themselves.

The same is true of animals and insects. Injure a cat, bird, or even an ant, and see if nature doesn’t find a way to either pay you back or keep you from doing anymore harm, somehow. They all know that they are part of something bigger. They all know that every action taken has a repercussion somewhere within the webs of energy that bind us all together. It is only man who places himself in a bubble of separateness; who closes himself off to everyone and everything else.

Instead of letting the information in, instead of allowing themselves to be one with all the universe, man chooses to live in a bubble of separation. Occasionally, cracks appear in your bubble, and information seeps through. Most of the time we choose to ignore this anomalous knowing; other times, we accept the knowledge, but find ways to explain it that still allow us to keep our image of separateness in tact.

A few of us, though, choose to lower that bubble and revel in the knowledge that comes from being no longer separate. We allow ourselves to “hear”, “see”, and “experience” all the input, all the information that comes from the universe around us—the stars, the plants, animals, insects, and other people.

Some people who welcome the oneness are looked upon as extraordinary, perhaps they have outstanding gardens where all things grow for them because they seem to know just what the plants need and when to apply it. Others become so intuitive with the animals that they become like Dr. Dolittle in their ability to understand and care for the animals. Others just seem to know or sense things about the people around them.

In each instance, it’s because they have released themselves from the restrictions of being separate. They have chosen, instead, to be one with all there is, to accept everything and everyone as they accept themselves.

It’s not magic, and it’s not make believe. There really is a part of our brains that causes us to experience the feelings of separateness in our world. It’s the spatial section of our brains. It provides each of us not only with a sense of location within a specific space and time, it also provides us with a sense of being us, a separate and unique being. However, when those with a heightened sense of intuitiveness were tested, the scientists found that instead of activating a new and different portion of their brain, what they had done was turn off their spatial functions within their brain.

They released the barriers that kept them separate from the rest of the world, and this allowed them to then open themselves up and “hear” and “know” everything that anyone and anything heard and knew. They could become like the beings in the movie Avatar, tapping into their world at a deeper level, tapping into their world and locating just the information needed to answer the questions asked of them (where is my daughter’s harp that was stolen?), or seeing the future possibilities emerge from all the probabilities, so that they can help someone make easier, less traumatic life choices. 

It’s a removing of barriers; a lowering of the bubbles of separateness that we all put around ourselves that lets us become one with our world, with our universe. It’s not a special section of the brain that needs to be activated, or triggered, but a common section which we all use that we need to turn off.

Some researchers found that simply by repeating the phrase, “I am one with the world”, helps lower that barrier that keeps you separated from everyone and everything else. So, try it…say it with me (but mean it), “I am one with the world…”; now believe that phrase. See yourself as one with the world; then let that bubble of separateness around you explode outward as you flow outward and find yourself one with the universe.

The eyes have it

It’s just a small difference really, but in that small difference can lie day and night, life and death, or the whole world. The small difference I’m referring to is in the words that people use and the way in which they put those words together. Change a word here or there, and it changes the whole intention of the message. Or simply move a word from the start of the sentence to the end of it, and you’ve now said something completely different.

I work with words every day; I’m a wordsmith, so I should know all about the tricks and manipulations that can be done with words. Yet, when you’re on the receiving end of manipulated messages, it’s not so easy to see where the words have been substituted or how exactly the intention of the message has been subtly shifted. Also, sometimes the deliverer of the message doesn’t realize that the message has been shifted or changed; they are honestly repeating what they heard or were told. Other times, the deliverer may honestly believe what they are saying is true, so again, the keenness of the words isn’t completely understood by them, but is doubly felt by you.

Word manipulation…it’s the difference between a doctor saying “Do this and you won’t die…” and “Do this and you won’t die as fast…”. The first statement is a very positive message. It says “you’ll be fine…trust me.” While the second message says, “You’re dying, but we might be able to slow it down…”. That second message, if heard and truly understood, can be pretty shocking if you had no idea that you were that ill.

The words used to deliver the messages are very similar, but the underlying meanings are completely different. Many of us don’t hear the underlying meanings, so we don’t even notice their differences. In fact, many of us are lucky to pay attention to the primary message and notice the subtle differences there. I think it’s because we don’t really listen. We hear, sure, but we don’t listen. We take in the words, but then we translate them into a message that we find acceptable. It may not be the same message that is actually being stated, but it’s one that we want to hear.

But then that’s the power of words. We can twist, shift, and manipulate them to say almost anything, and we do. Whether we are crafting the initial message or receiving that message, we shift the words to suit ourselves. And if we don’t like the underlying message, we ignore it; we pretend that it wasn’t there.

And while images may be worth a 1000 words, even they (nowadays) can be manipulated so that the original 1000 words they represented say something else.

Yes, with all this manipulating and reworking of the words going on, it can sometimes be hard to know just exactly what it is someone is trying to tell you. So how to tell what the true message is? How do you figure out what someone is really trying to tell you? While listening closely is always a good idea, the best way is to read their eyes. The true message that a person wishes to convey comes from their soul. So, to know what they want to really tell you, read their eyes, because the soul never lies.