The 7 Principles of Life

Although the book, The Eternal Journey by Lundahl and Widdison, is primarily about NDEs and what the authors feel NDEs imply for all of us, the excerpts of research that they used in the book conveyed much more, at least to me.

Many of the excerpts contained statements that echoed my own basic principles; principles (tenets and beliefs) that I have known internally since I was old enough to put coherent thoughts together.

I have only found one other book (until now) that talked about these ideas and that was the Michael books (Messages From Michael and More Messages From Michael by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro). Yet, the information in The Eternal Journey book is different. It’s the same material, but it’s from real, every day (“normal”) people—not some guru or medium.

The authors of The Eternal Journey book compiled the stories from thousands of people who reported having NDEs and throughout all of these stories were the same core beliefs that I had always “known”:

  • Everything is Choice. Before we incarnate in physical form we plan and choose our lives. We select our families, friends, potential mates, experiences and challenges. We also choose where and when we’ll be born (what socio-economic and political climate and circumstances). And after we’re born, we continue to make choices that affect us and those around us.
  • Everything is Connected. Everyone incarnate and discarnate is connected. And we’re all connected to every thing—animate and inanimate. We all share the same base structure, the same energy base, therefore anything we do affects everything and everyone else around us.
  • Everything Needs Balance. This is sometimes called karma, but it all comes down to learning to find the balance between our needs and our wants (or think we needs), between love and fear. The balance point is acceptance and tolerance, but there’s a whole range of experiences between love and fear or need and want. (And acceptance is not the same as resignation—acceptance is full of love, while resignation is without hope and contains fear.)
  • Life is Eternal. Sentience never dies. The body we think of as ourselves will die, but the true being inside of that body does not. The true body, the true us, lives forever.
  • Life is Relationships. Life is about the relationships we have with everything—our parents, ourselves, our jobs, our friends, our things, our pets, all of what we call nature, people we barely know (mail carriers, cashiers, neighbors, taxi drivers, etc.), other countries, religions, etc. How we treat ourselves and others is very important, because as stated earlier, we’re all connected.
  • Life is About Experience. Knowledge, learning, and experience are important parts to life. Every time you choose a physical life you gain knowledge and experiences, and that contributes to your overall learning. Your overall knowledge contributes to the overall experiences of everyone else because we all learn from each other.
  • Unifying Power. There is a unifying power, a super energy, a oneness, a singularity that binds us all together. Some of us call it God, some call it The All, and others call it a Supreme Being. Whatever name we give it, most people, especially those who have had an NDE are certain that it exists, even if they had been atheists prior to their NDE.

These seven principles seem to come through in the messages of loving acceptance that each NDE-er has. And these are the same seven principles that were expressed in the Michael books, and they are the same seven principles that I have felt guiding my life since the first.

I have to admit I find it fascinating, comforting, and a bit satisfying to hear other “normal” people express these same seven principles that I’ve been carrying around all my life. It always makes you feel better when someone else can validate you or your beliefs. So, while I can’t prove (in any scientific way, anyway) that these are the seven driving forces behind the world we live in, they have definitely been the seven driving forces behind my own life.


Because I was told to…

Would you do it? Would you push the button to give someone a shock just because a [supposed] doctor told you it would do no harm even though you felt it was wrong?

The TV show, Curiosity asked that same question, and then went on to illustrate their results. The originator of the question, though, was Stanley Milgram of the Stanley Milgram experiment back in the 1960’s. The Milgram experiment asks the question, “How willing are you to obey an authority figure who has instructed you to perform acts that conflict with your personal conscience?”

The answer may surprise you. I know it did me when I saw the outcome on Curiosity.

Here’s the set up: You and the “student” (usually someone in on the experiment) are instructed by the “doctor” (who is also in on things) as to how the process works. The “student” is placed in a sealed room with electrodes attached to them, while you (the teacher) are to give them word pairs to memorize via voice communications only. If, when you ask them to recite the pairings back to you, they get any of the pairings wrong, you give the “student” shocks of increasing voltage. Also, you’ve been informed (usually by the “student” when you met them) that the student has a slight heart condition, but the “doctor” assures everyone that this shouldn’t matter.

Here’s the reality: everyone except those acting as “teachers” is in on the “experiment”. No one is actually connected to any electrodes, so no one is being zapped; no one has a heart condition; and no one is actually learning any word pairings.

So, would you be willing to zap someone, increasing the voltage each time, if they didn’t get what you were “teaching” them? Most people when asked say they wouldn’t do it, and they give all kinds of reasons—it’s inhumane, it’s wrong, pain doesn’t help you learn. Even I shook my head once the host of the TV show explained what was going on, and said, “No way would I participate in something like that!” Yet, of the 10 people pegged as teachers (the only people who really had no clue that it was a set up and that no one was actually being zapped or having to learn word pairings), only 1 person refused to participate and walked out after hearing what it was they were expected to do. Of the remaining 9, they all balked once the voltage got to about the mid-point. However, once the “doctor” assured them that the “student” was fine (despite the yelps and screams of pain they heard coming from the “student”, pleas to quit, and reminders of the heart issues), all 9 continued through to the end of the experiment.

The producers of Curiosity even changed up the experiment a bit and added 2 “teachers”, one who was in on the experiment and one who wasn’t. With the added consensus of the second “teacher” backing them, almost all of the “teachers” (7 out of 10) refused to continue the experiment beyond the mid-point despite the “doctor’s” insistence that the “student” would be fine, that no harm would occur, and that the experiment needed to be completed for the results to be of value.

So, what does that mean? It means that when confronted with authority, most of us are willing to concede responsibility to that authority. As long as the authority figure seems knowledgeable and non-threatening (to us), most of us are willing to follow whatever orders we’re given despite what our conscience is telling us. In fact, we’re so willing to offload our responsibility that most of us don’t even feel guilty or very upset by continuing the experiment.

However, when someone else shows that they also question the edicts of the authority figure, we’re more likely to listen to ourselves and our conscience, and take on the responsibility of our actions—we may continue the actions, but we feel guilty and upset, or we may start questioning openly that authoritarian’s edicts.

It’s interesting that for most of us, balking against authority takes acceptance by at least one other person. I’m not necessarily an anarchist, but I would certainly hope that I’m not such a sheep that I would willingly zap someone just because someone (whom I don’t know from Adam) says it’s okay. That’s what I hope; what choice I’d actually make…I don’t know.

How ‘bout you? Would you zap someone? Would you continue to zap someone just because you were told it was okay?

The spirituality of death

According to the American Journal of Psychology, somewhere in the mid-1800s death became persona non-grata as spirituality was shunted aside and science began ruling the medical world. However, as Western society again embraces spirituality and metaphysics, the way the medical profession handles things is shifting again. Spirituality is now being welcomed back into those realms where once only science was allowed.

Of course, not every physician is willing to change, so many of them still follow the 5 unwritten rules regarding death:

1. Avoid taboo topics such as the patient’s appearance, future, upcoming holidays, or medications and treatments.

2. Stop discussing the current topic immediately if anyone in the room becomes emotional and add the topic to the list of those that are taboo (at least for that patient).

3. If the patient, patient’s friend, or patient’s relative mentions death or questions whether they or the patient is terminal, change the topic or leave the room.

4. Maintain “normalcy” always. Keep all conversations to a minimum and only discuss those things associated with “normal” healthy patients.

5. Be brief in all dealings with a terminal patient and their family.

However, many others who work in the medical profession are breaking free of those restraints. Although, the majority of our medical people have been taught Western philosophy and religions, many of them are exploring other philosophies and seeking more spirituality in their lives. This search is carrying over into their careers, too.

But it isn’t just the spirituality of life that they are exploring; they are also beginning to explore the spirituality of death. Death is becoming less of a forbidden topic and more of a curiosity and a challenge. People want to know what it means to die. They also want to know whether a soul actually exists, and if so, what happens to it when the physical body dies. They’re no longer content to “trust” that heaven exists because some man in a pulpit says so. Instead, they’re seeking “proof” or at least reassurances that seem, at least somewhat, based in something more sound than just the usual “because I said so.”

People have been led to believe in science and what it can “prove”, but when it comes to life and death neither science nor religion is enough. A vast majority of people are finding that there needs to be a blending of science and religion, and that’s where spirituality and metaphysics step in. These two are providing the basis for a different way of looking at the world.

Science writes off NDEs and NDAs as little more than biological and chemical reactions within a dying body, and religion claims they are glimpses of heaven (or hell). Meanwhile, spirituality allows each person to interpret the event in their own way in accordance to their own needs, and metaphysics gives each event a sense of reality by grounding things in a scientific manner, yet keeping an open mind for those things not easily explained.

Death is no longer the fear-filled event waiting for us at the end of our lives. Instead, death has become an intriguing question to which NDEs and NDAs seem to hold the answers. Each reported NDE or NDA makes us feel as if we’re a little closer to that answer. And each reported NDE or NDA draws people’s attention to the questions of life, death, and the existence of a soul.

Many have rallied to the challenge of bringing death out of the shadows and into the light where it belongs, and once illuminated, it is impossible to ignore. Even so, some doctors still view the dying as a personal failure, and will do anything to keep it from happening. They replace body parts; they hook the body to all manner of machines, tubes, and electrodes to keep it alive. But eventually even they will have to recognize that life without death is a lie. It doesn’t matter how many body parts you replace, or how many tubes or electrodes you attach to a person, when the spirit needs to leave, it will. That is how the circle of continuous life works.

It’s a Zoo

We all live in a zoo, of sorts. Each of us sharing some cages, and others walled off in our own private cages within the bigger cage of life. In fact, some of us have enclosed ourselves within multiple cages, each smaller and more cramped than the next one. Others have managed to break out of most of their cages, and now only huddle within the largest of them, with edges so far flung that they can’t even see the bars. For others, the edge of their cage is so close that they feel hunched and crowded no matter what they do.

However, most of us don’t wish to see or acknowledge these cages, so we don’t; after all, we are the creators of our cages, so we are hardly going to admit (even to ourselves) that we have placed these boundaries around ourselves. But think about it…how often have you told yourself that you can’t do or say something, or that you mustn’t do or say something? Every time you do that, you put another layer of boundaries (another cage) around yourself. These are cages built of fear. Whether it’s the fear of being perceived as “different than the norm”, the fear of failing, the fear of being rejected, or the fear of appearing silly or stupid, it’s still a barrier that you create around yourself.

What if it didn’t matter what anyone else thought? What if there were no way to measure success and failure? Would you do or say something then? Probably. Because it would be more difficult for the fear to take hold. Maybe not impossible, but definitely more difficult.

Some fears cause you to create a cage of solitude, walling out anyone and everyone that would even try to get close to you. Arrogance builds a fear in people of being seen for what they are rather than what they want others to believe they are. This causes someone with arrogance to build a cage around themselves to lock others away; keeping them from coming too close. Greed is another one that causes people to create a cage of solitude because they are more intent on obtaining more of whatever it is they feel they don’t have enough of. This causes the greedy ones to push people away (unless, of course, it’s people that the greedy one needs to “collect”), because they only have time for people that can help them obtain what it is they need.

Some people build cages not just around themselves, but around others, too. It could be that they fear being alone so they cage themselves together with a select chosen few to keep them close. It could be a widow who holds her grown children too close, or a clingy friend. Some people are afraid of being abandoned, so they, too, build cages around family members or friends in an attempt to hold them close.

Others build cages of “love” but the love is unbalanced, because their love is based on fear. They’re afraid that their partner might leave them, or they’re afraid that their partner only loves them because they’re beautiful/rich/powerful.

Most people do not analyze their reasons for “loving” someone else, at least not until that relationship starts to fall apart. However, even then, they will rarely recognize that their love was anything but that all shining icon called true love that we were all raised to expect and so look for endlessly.

But even an honest, balanced love can become a cage; although, it is usually a less restrictive, less inhibiting one. That is because it is constructed by all the participants in an equal and balanced way. It is more of an exclusionary barrier, keeping out those too frightened by such beauty as pure love to be able to understand or share the emotion. However, this is a rare occurrence, and this type of cage is seldom seen by the majority of us, and when it is, we usually see it as something to fear.

So, next time you think we only put animals in zoos, think about the cages you’ve built around self, and realize that we’re all in our own personal zoo.

Be the butterfly


Like a butterfly,
I burst free from the cocoon.
I soar into life,
A life of the soul without physicality.

From caterpillar,
To cocoon,
From life,
To death.

But death is not all;
There is more beyond.
There is love,
There is acceptance,
There is life – again.

Soar with me
And see the beauty.
Bathe in the glow
Of the light of pure love.

Spread your wings
And be the butterfly
You were always meant to be,
As we move from life to death to life once more.

Dedicated to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and her journey in life, death, and life beyond. Check out her books “On Life After Death”, “Life After Life”, “The Tunnel and the Light”, and “Questions and Answers on Death and Dying”, to name just four.  

What is real?

Near death experiences…what are they really? Most people who have near death experiences feel that they truly left their bodies. Some even feel that they traveled beyond this Earthly existence to another place (heaven, the astral plane, somewhere). However, some scientists and medical experts claim that these sensations and experiences are nothing more than the misfirings of the brain caused by the lack of oxygen and the chemicals released by our bodies as we begin to shut down into death.

So, is there something more beyond the physical realm, or is it just our own body’s reactions that we experience when we die?

I’m no expert, but I’ve had at least 1 NDE myself. When I combine that with what I’ve experienced as a planer, I’m pretty confident in my beliefs. I know that what I recognize as “me” is much more than this physical body. I know that my soul (awareness, consciousness, Ka, the sentient portion of who I am) will continue even when the physical form is no longer functioning (dead). But, just like those who have had near death experiences, I have no “proof” other than what I remember of my planer and out of body experiences. Unfortunately, those folks of a more scientific nature discount memories of these types of incidents because they can’t measure and quantify them. Memories, like rainbows, can’t be captured, bottled, tested and measured.

Some scientific and medical experts have tried to recreate near death experiences using a type of virtual reality, while others have tried to induce it through chemical means. However, because these experts have not experienced the bright light, the visions of ghostly loved ones, or the feelings of expansiveness and all encompassing love, they refuse to believe in the possibility of another reality, a reality where physical bodies are not needed, a reality where consciousness and awareness exist without physicality.

They insist that since they can only measure what is happening within the physical mind and body, that all those feelings and visions are nothing more than hallucinations, self-deception based on expectations and beliefs, or are created by chemical imbalances within the mind as the body prepares itself for death. But they have not yet figured out how to measure awareness or consciousness, and if they can’t measure or recognize this fundamental aspect of humanness, how can they say for certain that life cannot exist outside of the physical body? How can they be certain that what the mind remembers during death (or rather, near death) are the memories or experiences of the soul (consciousness and awareness) as it is leaving the body, yet is still connected to the body?

After all, all of life is lived within the brain and mind, so to say something is not real because it only exists within our mind, is to say that nothing is real. I think these scientists and medical experts who refuse to even consider the possibility that consciousness and awareness can exist beyond the physical body, are so limited by their own fears that they will never “believe” or “prove” that there is life beyond the death of the physical body. At least not until they die and see it for themselves.

How do you know?

How can you “remember” your past or future lives? How do you know what other realities you have, are, or will be participating in? For me, it’s always been easy to see. But with a little practice, it can be easy for anyone.

You see, we all “carry around” our own pasts, like books on tape they’re recorded within our soul. To “read” these books you just need to focus your energies (your self) on that chakra where the recordings are stored.

When I do that, I get short movie-type segments that play out in my mind—like waking dreams, but clearer. I liken it to watching a movie through a gauzy curtain, though sometimes the curtain isn’t there at all, in which case I can see the action and characters quite clearly.

Many times the conversations (if there are any) take place in the native language (in other words, if the memory is from Loir, France, then the language spoken is French). Yet, even though the characters are speaking their native language, I can understand them. It’s as if the meaning of the words is going straight to my brain, so I’m hearing the meaning of the conversation rather than the words of the conversation.

Rarely are there any literal signs to tell me when and where the memory is from. Usually, I have to try to match the mode of apparel and hair styles to a period of time, then try to match the language with a location. Sometimes the location is just “known” by me (the current me) but I still need to match the clothing and hair styles with the era. That’s why sometimes the era is noted by me as being between 1200-1300 AD, because the clothing worn is so generic (European peasantry didn’t have much in the way of style back then) that it’s difficult to match any closer.

Sometimes I’ll see something within the memory image that will be a large help (such as a crest on the side of a coach), and sometimes there is little to note, other than grass-covered hills in a springtime countryside. Without the players there I would have never identified the countryside as being in Asia (more specifically Japan), but several of the players were wearing the clothing of Shindo monks, which gave me the time period—feudal Japan.

The most common method I use for linking in and viewing some of my pasts (or possible futures) is meditation. The one I like best for this type of viewing is a focused meditation. You focus on your second and third chakras (the ones by your belly button and just below your genitals), because this is where the memories are stored.

When I first started, I would get quick flashes, like lightning flashing on a kaleidoscope of photographs. However, as I was able to hold my focus for longer periods of time, I found myself able to move from photographs to fragments of moving pictures. Even these fragments of movement, though, usually came without sound—perhaps a flash of insight (such as knowing where or when). But it wasn’t until it became full blown videos that the “sound” also began to work, and I would hear the conversations and arguments of these memories.

If you’re not into meditation, and I know a lot of people aren’t, you can focus on your pasts or futures just before falling asleep. This allows you to use your dreams as the window through which you can view your pasts and futures. Just before falling asleep, repeat to yourself that you want to the past or future that is having the most influence on your current life. This will trigger you (most times, anyway) to “remember”. Of course, you need to wake yourself up immediately following the memory replay so that you can write it down, just as you would with any other dream. But I think you’ll see the difference between the “memory” and normal dreams.

While dreams rarely make sense, and are usually non-linear in their “stories”, a memory will make sense and it will tell a logical, linear story. Most of us retain the memories of very emotional or traumatic events (which most of the time is the death sequence of the previous life). Many times this can be when the previous person we were died, but other times it can be some other event—a betrayal by lover, friend, co-worker, can be very emotional, so may appear; the los of a loved one, whether child, friend, spouse, etc. can be very emotional and may appear as a memory; or the loss of a major opportunity (especially if it will cause a major change in our lives or major regrets) can be “dreamed” about.

Think about your own life, and the types of memories you have—aren’t they all extremely emotional? Someone you loved, admired, or held in great esteem did something nice for you; a day when something happened that greatly embarrassed you; the horrible argument you had with a friend over 10 years ago; the time you got cheated out of your last dollar by someone. See, those are the types of things that stay in your memory—the emotional things. So, when you delve into your pasts or futures, those are also the types of memories you will find—the emotional ones.

Another way to open yourself up to remembering your pasts, is to look to your current life. Do you have a penchant for African art when all your other tastes are extremely modern? There’s probably a life connection with Africa. Do you find yourself decorating your house with hints of Ancient Egypt—a statue of Isis, an ankh, maybe just some wallpaper border with hieroglyphs on it? Perhaps you spent a life in and around that area during that time period. Perhaps you find that learning a particular language comes easily, while any other language is very difficult? Did you find it easy to learn Russian, but couldn’t figure out French or Spanish to save your soul? Maybe it’s because you’re connecting with a life spent in Russia or the Ukraine.

So if you’re really interested in finding out about your other lives, there are many ways to do it. There are hypno-therapists who will help you regress and remember, there are auric readers who can probably help you remember, but mostly there’s yourself. You have the recordings, you just need to “listen” to them.